7 Ways to Feel AWESOME(R) & EMPOWERED

Written on June 12, 2016

Lately, I've been feeling really awesome about myself...and, for once, I don't feel embarrassed by or apologetic for stating that. Guess what? Appreciating and accepting who you are doesn't make you conceded. Confidence doesn't equate with arrogance. Self-appreciation isn't selfish — in fact, one simply cannot radiate compassion to others until such compassion is first dispersed internally. Struggling to feel awesome and empowered? Well, I've got 7 tips that just might help you out...

 

1. Exercise self-trust creatively...

through making something and sharing it. However, do not share your creation simply for the purpose of gaining validation from others. Instead, share your creativity for the purpose of feeling like and expressing yourself. Knowing and trusting yourself is incredibly important, honorable, and special — so what better way to let it be known that you KNOW, TRUST, and LOVE who you are by expressing that in a creative way!? For example, grab a pen and a blank piece of paper; turn on your favorite music; visit your favorite coffee shop; think about something or someone you love. Trust your hand and go at it — see what transpires. Don't draw a flower that you saw someone else once sketch — see what naturally flows from your mind. Even if you aren't the most artistic person, this is an incredibly beneficial exercise that's both fun and restorative. 

 

2. Eat sushi and/or a burrito...

Simply, I somehow always feel awesome when I eat these foods. No, I don't understand it (nor do I have reasonable evidence as to why this theory would make any sense at all whatsoever). Give it a try though — call up your nearest Mexican/and or sushi place, order take-out, turn on a great movie (Good Will Hunting is both a classic and one of my top 5 favorites), and let me know where you're at either during or afterconsumption of either (or both!) of these incredible concoctions (the comment section is below ↓).

 

3. Go for a drive...

or a ride of some kind. Maybe you don't have a car/aren't old enough to drive...go for a bike ride! Strap on a pair of roller skates! Call up an Uber! Hop on the subway! The possibilities are endless. Personally, there is almost nothing as empowering as operating/controlling/riding a vehicle with no particular destination on the horizon. As straightforward as it sounds, observe the world around you. Notice the passing trees, mailboxes, and windows. Use the time to reflect. Embrace being present and not thinking too much about an end-goal for once (like we all do far too often). Exploring is incredibly healing. Appreciate the alone time, learn from and about yourself, and embrace the power you possess of being able to choose the route that you want to take (be it the subway line you choose or the passion you choose to pursue in life). 

 

4. Go out to eat by yourself...

It's incredibly empowering to walk into a restaurant, say: "Table for one please," and order yourself a nice plate of pasta, a fancy drink (with some sort of garnish, of course...Maybe a mini umbrella? A cherry? A lemon wedge? All 3?), and possibly even a decedent dessert (I'm a sucker for chocolate cake). Yes, it may feel awkward — and, in awkward situations, we're so used to turning to our phones for relief. However, when you're out to eat, challenge yourself to keep your phone in your bag (always, but especially when you're alone). Enjoy your meal fully. People-watch. Engage genuinely with your waiter or waitress. Thank whoever pours your water and clears your dishes. Embrace the awkwardness! Trust me, even if you don't feel great during the experience, you'll thank yourself later.

 

5. Listen to these 3 songs...

1. "Don't Stop Me Now" - Queen

2. "NoLo" - Grace Mitchell

3. "She Moves In Her Own Way" - The Kooks

 

6. Say hello to a random person...

Be friendly. Interact with at least one new person TODAY (and everyday). Note how it feels internally. How do you feel like you're coming across? What do you habitually do/how do you naturally act when meeting someone new? What did you learn from/about that person? Daily, make a conscious effort to learn about others and yourself. Such learning process will never stop, but do your best to acknowledge and cultivate your own growth when/how you can — as often as you can.

 

7. Watch this video...

www.youtube.com/watch?v=qR3rK0kZFkg

of a little girl standing on her bathroom vanity declaring how she can "do anything good!"

Guess what? YOU can too!

 

I know these tips are a bit cliché — and if you don't feel like applying them to your own life, there is no pressure to do so. That being said, just know/remember that: it takes actual action in order to enact change (be it in a broad, global sense or with regard to your own life). It's like the difference between hearing and listening — although the latter takes more effort, it's far more rewarding, influential, and advantageous.

 

 Keep being awesome (& knowing it).